It was heart wrenching.
It was shocking.
and it was so very relatable.
My step mum was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer two years ago and it also spread to her nimpnoids, which she then had removed. Looking back it was all a bit of a blur, nothing prepares you as a family for the battle against cancer. I do remember seeing her in a totally different light, she wasn't her usual strong, outgoing and bright self that she once was. Everything we knew changed pretty much over night.
I can only speak for myself here, I found it hard to know what to say allot of the time, I didn't know if we should carry on as normal? Do I shower her with attention or do I give her space? I had no idea how I was supposed to be.
She lost all of her hair, very quickly. Again, nothing prepares you for seeing someone you have known for a long time, all of a sudden with no hair. When it started falling out she made the courageous decision to shave it all off, so she could remain in control. For me, what surprised me most was how quickly everyone just adapts, you just get used to them with no hair.
The chemo was a bitch, in her words. It knocked the life out of her, she suddenly become a weak, frail and negative person. It was hard to see but a thousand times harder for her to go through.
She did however recover, thank goodness. She magically bounced back to the person we all knew, she fought it hard and I'm extremely proud of her. I'm not sure I could of got through it so dignified and courageously.
Emma was a healthy 37 year old, marathon runner, fitness fanatic with no family history. She just found a lump one day and that's when her nightmare began. I cant begin to emphasize how important it is to check yourself and to go for smears regularly, time and early diagnose can make such a big difference.
My step mum - Emma with my daughter back in 2012.
I count my lucky star's everyday for my health, because without it you haven't got allot. Life is precious, unpredictable and unfair.
Cancer makes no allowances for anyone.
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