This is the thing, he is almost definitely the best half. The concrete that holds it all together.
We met later then most, but at a perfect time for us at that point in our lives. I was a 27 year old single mum of a 3 year old little girl. My life was petty ordinary and ordered, I had my career, my baby girl, my house and that's all I really needed. Well, so I thought. He was a 31 year old bachelor with a pretty good lifestyle. Our lives couldn't have been any more different.
My girl and I drifted along quite nicely, until I met him! He threw my life upside down, literally. I didn't realise until I had 'it' what I had been missing out on. 'It' changed my life for the better, 'It' was that soppy shit they call love.
We clicked straight away, it was the weirdest thing ever. We are complete opposites, like yin and yang and that must be why we work so well.
I'm a little crazy and unstable and he is calming and sensible. When I'm going through a 'stress at every little thing day' he talks logic and solutions and gets me through my little bit of craziness. He often reminds me that there isn't any point in stressing about the things you cannot change.
When we met I was suffering from anxiety and depression and I often got myself into states of complete over drive, where I couldn't think straight at all and I would over think everything. This wasn't a healthy state to be in or a healthy basis for a relationship, as I could get quite jealous and insecure. He accepted all of this and we worked around it together. It wasn't easy and it was a big learning curve for the both of us. But I'm so pleased to say that I'm miles better then I was, and I have tried to take on some of his traits. I'm allot calmer and less stressful these days, don't get me wrong my personality is still slightly crazy but its more controlled now.
Some days I can still be a self confessed nightmare to live with! On those days nothing anyone does it right, I hate the world, myself and everyone and I stress about absolutely everything. But he is always there being jolly, calming and with his don't give a shit attitude and I feel reassured that even through my life feels crazy he is there holding it all together.
It has been a bit of a roller-coaster. I got pregnant pretty quick, 6-months after being together, so when my boy was 1 we had only been together just over 2 years! Insane hey?!
So we were thrown in at the deep end, I had an awful pregnancy which seemed to go on forever, we encountered numerous problems with the mother-in-law (a whole another post) and I got extremely big. Then when the little man came he suffered colic, milk intolerance and at 13 months of age he still hasn't slept a whole night through!!! Now if sleep deprivation doesn't test your relationship then nothing will. But through all of this we have remained pretty solid, he is my biggest life line, my best mate and my everything. I have no idea what I would do without him. He is the best dad, to my daughter and to our challenging son and of course the best partner I could ever ask for.
I count my lucky stars I have him in my life.