Sunday, 17 May 2015

I choose cautious and controlled blogging




Recently I have began to question my blog and the content I post.

I question how much right and control we have as bloggers over our content and photographs. Can I protect my children and their identities whilst still remaining an open and honest blogger?

I am extremely conscious of the fact, we as bloggers make the choice to put ourselves out there. We choose to share and reveal personal aspects of ourselves and our families, publicly on the Internet. However, does this take away our rights and our control over who can use and share our content and photographs and what it can then be used for, once it is out there on the World Wide Web. 
Whilst I love blogging and writing about my drama's, experiences and misfortunes my priority is and always will be my children. For me, the Internet is an absolute mine field and I'm fully aware that I'm only a small fish in a very big pond. There is so much I don't fully understand and I don't feel I can ever begin to understand all the laws, regulations and procedures and this worries me. I feel out of my depth and out of control. Which means I'm out of my comfort zone. 

I would like to think that the world is full of honest and genuine people, like me, with good intentions. However, sadly in reality this isn't always the case. 

I know of bloggers who have had their photos and content used without their permission and this makes me feel extremely uneasy. I fear that the children of these bloggers are being treated unfairly and their human rights are being taken away from them. Everyone has a right to their privacy and as parents we  have a responsibity to protect our children, until they are old enough to make their own informed choices, regardless of how good our intentions are or our reasons behind what we do! 

The Internet is full of uncertainty and im not willing to risk the uncertainty of my children's identity and privacy. 

I have come to the decision that in future posts I will be minimising the amount of photographs I publish and the content which identifies my children. I hope this won't take anything away from my writing or my blog. I still aspire to be an open and honest blogger however I'm choosing to keep certain accepts personal. For example photos which I will be saving for the family albums. 

Any thoughts on this controversial subject would be gratefully received below. 

Obviously these are only my views and opinions, and isn't an attempt to cast judgment on other bloggers who choose to do things differently to me. I will still continue to follow and support all the great bloggers out there regardless. The world is built up of different people, opinions and views and it's our right to have these. 

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Friday, 15 May 2015

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Week commencing: 11th May
 
 
This week has  flown by so quick I haven't had chance to stop and
catch my breath! Before I know it we will be in June.


 Read:
 
 
I shamefully gave up on my book from last weeks #LittleLoves
'The One you really want' as I just couldn't get into it. I came across Dark Places by Gillian Flynn and being as impatient as I am, I had to start reading it immediately.  I enjoyed Gillian Flynn's Gone Girl so I was intrigued by this one. I'm three chapters in and I have to admit its a bit dark.
 
Watched:
 
 
I was late watching this because I have the worst memory, I was eagerly awaiting it after seeing it advertised weeks beforehand but then it slipped by mind. Thank goodness for BBC iplayer!! It was extremely
well written and Sheridan Smith was amazing throughout.
I also wrote a post on it: The C Word
 
 
Wore:

 
                       


These bright little odd looking things are pretty fricking awesome, I brought them from Primark for £2.99 they come in a pack of 3. I hate wearing socks with trainers but cant bare to go bare footed - gross! so this is my alterative when I'm working out. they are breathable and totally hidden by your trainers!
 
Heard:
 

 


I seen this doing the rounds on Facebook so had to take a look, especially as Ed Sheeran is involved. my first thought was, Jamie Oliver and rapping isn't a good idea, stick to your day job (also said my Professor Green in video) BUT its actually quite good and there's a few famous faces in it. after reading more about it on the website link here -  Food revolution website and petition its all for a very good cause and I'm all for more education on food in schools so I happily signed and shared.
Made:

 

I made memories with these two little monkeys again this week.
 I love spending time with my niece and my boy loves having his
cousin to play but they are a right handful together.
1 is trouble but 2 is chaos.
(Age 1 and 2) 
 
 
and lastly:

 
                         

 

The weather here has been pretty crappy and well it gets you down doesn't it? and with the sleep deprivation I've felt a bit meh! So I seen this quote and its got motivated me to think about the good in everyday.
I for one dwell on the bad far to much.


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Thursday, 14 May 2015

"I had a dream......"


Ok so mine wasn't as important or as inspiring as Martin Luther-Kings, obviously! But I did have a ground breaking dream. It involved all parents being entitled to one week off once a year, a parenting-break. It was actually encouraged and not frowned upon to leave your children for one whole week, to selfishly indulge yourself and all completely guilt-free :)



Just imagine....

Now I know every parents first thought would be 'I would miss my children far to much' I'm with you, I get it, I've only left mine for 1 night, once, to go to a wedding and I missed them ridiculously. It doesn't matter how much the buggers play you up you just cant help but miss them. But what if they got to go on their own educational vacation, like summer camp and you knew they would be fine and you had no worries about the children what so ever!

Just imagine....

Next thought 'Parents cant afford luxuries like that' well what if it was all paid for by the government, a new scheme to help parents keep their sanity and commend good parenting. A chance to re-charge batteries, relax and recuperate.

So just to re-cap - One weeks all paid for, parenting break! I know unreal right?! Now this got me thinking about what I would do with my one week off? In-between missing the children terribly, obviously.

* Sun - there would have to be sun. With no need for erratic application of factor 50 on the little ones every half an hour.

* Sleep - lots of it. Undisturbed deep sleep, long naps and lie-in's.

* Cocktails - with no regards to the hangover, I can sleep it off anyway.

* Hot unrushed meals - that I wouldn't have to share or throw away because it went cold.

* Conversations with my partner about anything but the children.

* Reading - a whole book in a day, if I felt like it.

* Long indulgent showers or even go all out an have a bath! In peace.

* I would get dressed up, put a full face of make-up on, not a half arsed effort with a toddler pulling at your leg and get my hair done. For no reason at all, just because I can.

* I would be spontaneous, adventurous and crazy for one whole week, with no regard to school nights, bad behaviour or telling offs.



Just imagine....

* No Cbeebies! or frozen! or 1D!

* No nappies, no Jam disasters to clean up and no dare devil stunts to put a stop to.   

* No nagging, no asking 5-6 times to do things and no losing your temper and shouting at all, for one whole week.

But then after that one week you feel like a new person, totally refreshed and confident. You cant wait to see your babies and they cant wait to see you, everyone's a winner.

What would you do with your parenting break? Just imagine......




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